Duplication This is a stage whereby you have mastered the path you have chosen and may have attained success. The process, all the understanding of the journey, looks so simple when you look back. The success may bring certain freedom which could be very intoxicating. What you experience at this stage is personal. If you share with others they will not know what you are really talking about.
While enjoying what you have achieved you feel empathy for others who still are struggling. The biggest difference between you and them is mindset. What you have become in the process is nothing else but the present mindset is; whatever that may mean to you.
Most people are happy living miserable lives. Miserable life has become so commonplace that we even do not see if there is a misery in their life. Repeating same thing over and over again for lifetime is never noticed though we are broke and bored to death with it. We have our own mindset and are happy holding onto it. Most people have gathered so much of knowledge that their backbone & mind is very rigid. This is known identified as Cup Full Syndrome. Such people are almost impossible to coach. In their definition receiving indicates not having already, which is not acceptable. Such people only learn by experience, good or bad. Life can only be their teacher till they realize that there is a possibility to learn from other’s also. They do not necessarily have to undergo the same experience personally to know the outcome. Meanwhile much water has flown under the bridge.
There are some who are willing to learn from others experience and ready to suspend their judgment. But these are few and far in between. They work on blind trust to start and it converts into belief over period of time. It is not that they have less intelligence or access to knowledge. On the contrary, one needs to be sharp to make this choice, instead of reinventing the wheel. It is a choice to let go, holding someone’s hand who has been through that journey.
This means one must not stop at one person and must reach out to more and more people. Some will see significance of what you want to share and what it can do to their lives. Most won’t see much in what you are sharing. Eventually you will have few willing people, who are ready to do what it takes. You may gradually share your knowing depending on the receiving pace. Knowledge can only be in past, knowing is ever in the present moment.
Over period of time, you will have to play various roles; guide, a friend, a teacher to name a few. Sometimes you would be most gentle and caring while on other occasion you may come so harsh that recipient will get shocked. Between the two extremes, you mould the person slowly, patiently. In this process, you try and evoke understanding and subsequently the knowing as you experienced.
This is known to be a thankless and painful process but once the change happens in the person, their joy and freedom surpasses all your pains. And you go on sharing what you have found, time & time again.
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